A Word to the Fatherless

Father’s Day was this past weekend. It is such a wonderful opportunity to celebrate those Dads that we want to show some love. There are so many wonderful men that lead and love their family well. I’m so thankful for this day to celebrate THEM!

Father’s Day can also be challenging for those of us who have lost our dad, or no longer have a relationship with him. Some of us had wonderful dads that we lost too soon, some had dads that lived a long, loving fulfilled life. Others never had a relationship or have a strained one with their father. In any circumstance, the day can be difficult.

My personal story is is that I had an amazingly loving dad that died at the young age of 42. He was a wonderful support, loving, gentle and fun. He was diagnosed with Leukemia at age 40 and battled for two years. I was at the awkward age of 12 when he died, so there was a lot going on in those developmental years. I had wonderful men that did, and have continued, to show up in my life. Those men, giving me a wonderful picture of what a father looks like. None could ever replace my Dad, but so thankful for what they taught me.

I’ve learned many things through all of these years without my father. So many seasons and changes and personal growth has happened. Most importantly, I’ve learned that I am NOT father-less. I have a perfect father in Christ Jesus. He is EVERYTHING I need, and I feel abundantly blessed that I am a child of the King. It took many years of suffering, searching and praying. It didn’t come without hurt and heartbreak. Many lessons learned and work of the Lord.

Today, I confidently approach Father’s Day without mourning or sadness or suffering. Over the years it has become a day of rejoicing. Rejoicing for the father I had, the men that have come along, and the confidence I hold in my Heavenly Father, Jesus. That He will sustain me, and lead me better than ANY earthly father could.

If you are in a place of suffering and mourning the loss of your father today. I hear you, I feel you, I understand that treacherous path that it can be. I’m praying for you today. That the Lord would strengthen and guide you in a way that you never have been before. That you would find your strength and peace in the Father that never fails and never leaves, Jesus.

Potato Soup

I threw this together, cause’ these were the only ingredients I had on hand. It’s been pretty cool summer here, so I’m ok with soup in the summer on days like these. Turned out pretty delicious!


3lbs Potatoes

32 oz broth (I used vegetable)

2 Tbsp dill

1 tsp cayenne pepper

2 Tbsp garlic powder

1 Tbsp oregano

4 Tbsp butter

Chop potatoes into small cubes with skin on. Place potatoes, broth and spices in Instant Pot, on Soup/Broth function. Or boil potatoes on Medium on stove top.

Once potatoes are soft, smash potatoes with potato masher or blend. After soup is mixed and cooled for a few minutes, add butter. Let butter fully melt and add salt and pepper generously as desired. Optional: top with bacon pieces &/or cheese. Enjoy!

Snack Limits

This post was originally intended to be in reference to children. However, it would easily be applied to adults as well. The point is the same for any age group.

Snacks can become quite overwhelming, and in most kids are a nice substitute for replacing their meals. If they snack often, the likelihood of them being hungry when meal time comes is quite rare. Unless, of course, they’re going through a growth spurt or have some other medical condition. Honestly, I can’t blame them, cause snack foods are typically more convenient for on the go, and sometimes tastier than a full meal.

Snacks have never been a priority in our family. My husband and I aren’t big snackers, so its not something we’ve done much of. My kids can sometimes get in the “need a snack” mindset, but I try to quickly combat that with some of these solutions.

  1. Offer filling and nutritious meals. We don’t offer snacks in between meals, unless they have eaten their entire meal. If so, they are free to pick a fruit or vegetable for an in between meal snack. I do not allow for snacking if they chose not to eat at mealtime.
  2. Proper hydration is huge. My kids have a water bottle that I like to keep full at all times. They are in an easy to reach place, so that they have access to water at any time. Many times when we think we’re hungry, we’re actually thirsty. Same for kids, water most times will fill that “maybe hungry” tummy and curb the craving to snack.
  3. Snacks aren’t boredom solutions. I try not to use food as an activity or a pacifier when my kids need a distraction. I understand, certain circumstances and ages of children, it’s possibly necessary for a short season. I try to avoid this whenever possible as a habit though. Food can easily become our entertainment or comfort. These aren’t always healthy habits to set for lifetime practices.

If you want to begin changing snack routines in your family, I would suggest taking one of these solutions at a time. Pick one, and begin enforcing it for a few weeks. Then, once your family has become accustomed to that one, begin enforcing another, and then another, in time. I would NOT suggest attempting all of these at once with your family. I’d imagine you’d have some cranky kids and frustrated parents. No body wants either of those, and your going for a long-term solution, not a quick fix!