I have many “mama fears”, but one has become stronger than any other, in this particular season. I know, almost every mom I talk to, has a struggle of their own. All different, but mostly present.
These fears usually begin small and periodic. However, over time can easily consume us. Without seeking truth and purposeful mind work, they can get completely out of control and debilitate before we realize it.
I have had a fear of a water and my children for years now, but more recently it became quite an issue. Rightfully so, we are in season of four small children that feel confident in the water without actual swimming skills. It lead me to a few realizations that can help with ANY mom fear.
1. Take thoughts captive within a few seconds. You know that moment you have a thought, then begin to envision all of the most awful possible outcome. Don’t let yourself get there. Shut those down before they move any further than a simple thought.
2. Conquer the fear. Participate in those activities that drive the fear. I’m obviously not talking about doing things that are purposely dangerous or unwise. For me it’s been swimming. So, we are proactively focused on teaching our kids to swim. This brings confidence and security that whatever it is, is not quite as scary as thought. We can’t live in fear!
3. Accept that you aren’t in control. As hard as that is, it’s somewhat comforting. We can be wise and do all the “right” things, but we don’t control the outcome. I’ve had to give this to the Lord, seeking His promises and truth on areas that I feel afraid.
This isn’t an easy process and it definitely takes time. Every step in fighting fear is a step in progress. Cause living in fear isn’t really living!
Wrapping up a six week boot camp challenge, I’m feeling encouraged and motivated. I’m not, (and never have been) a “fitness guru” by ANY means. I enjoy running and would do it to train for races, but no regular workout routine. Definitely not a morning person either, so this has been a HUGE change!
Almost every day it was hard to get out of bed. I almost considered not doing it every single day. But I didn’t, and I never regretted it, not for one day! There were a few factors that help keep me motivated to keep going in this journey.
1. Get a friend to join you. AKA, an accountability partner. The one that shows up with you. That will give you grace when you fail, and encourage you to keep going. Someone you know will show up & that you want to be the same for them.
2. Set workout clothes out the night before. The less you have to deal with at 5AM, the more likely you’ll be to actually do it. Clothes out helps cut one more step to get you going.
3. Don’t get on the scale. Trust me, this won’t help motivate. I made that mistake and just got frustrated. Building muscle and losing inches, don’t always equal weight loss. The fitness testing and body measurements at the end of six weeks, gave me a truer representation of progress made.
Start today. Don’t think about the journey ahead or progress to be made. Just make the decision to do it one day at at time. You’ll be amazed at your discipline & change!