I have many “mama fears”, but one has become stronger than any other, in this particular season. I know, almost every mom I talk to, has a struggle of their own. All different, but mostly present.
These fears usually begin small and periodic. However, over time can easily consume us. Without seeking truth and purposeful mind work, they can get completely out of control and debilitate before we realize it.
I have had a fear of a water and my children for years now, but more recently it became quite an issue. Rightfully so, we are in season of four small children that feel confident in the water without actual swimming skills. It lead me to a few realizations that can help with ANY mom fear.
1. Take thoughts captive within a few seconds. You know that moment you have a thought, then begin to envision all of the most awful possible outcome. Don’t let yourself get there. Shut those down before they move any further than a simple thought.
2. Conquer the fear. Participate in those activities that drive the fear. I’m obviously not talking about doing things that are purposely dangerous or unwise. For me it’s been swimming. So, we are proactively focused on teaching our kids to swim. This brings confidence and security that whatever it is, is not quite as scary as thought. We can’t live in fear!
3. Accept that you aren’t in control. As hard as that is, it’s somewhat comforting. We can be wise and do all the “right” things, but we don’t control the outcome. I’ve had to give this to the Lord, seeking His promises and truth on areas that I feel afraid.
This isn’t an easy process and it definitely takes time. Every step in fighting fear is a step in progress. Cause living in fear isn’t really living!