Mom + MOM= MoM

All moms are different, but all are still mom. No matter how you mom, you’re still mom. Mother’s Day, has me thinking about how we “learn” to be moms. About myself as a mom, and moms that have impacted my life in meaningful ways.

Moms look different in all areas of life. No mother/child dynamic is the same. What a beautiful image. All imperfect, all doing the very best we know how!

The gift of every mother in my life has added value, and is such a wonderful blessing. It’s hard to gauge what kind of mom I am, through my own perspective. (Though, I may ask my kids what they think about me…) There are some great qualities that I’ve seen in other moms that I hope to emulate.

My Mom: Fights fiercely and tirelessly for her kids.

My Mother-In- Law: Gives herself and her time without restraint.

Of course there are SO many more qualities in these wonderful women! Obviously there are also grandmothers, sisters, friends, aunts, and cousins that have taught me so much. Those women that display kindness, gentleness, self-sacrifice, discipline, hard work, honesty and generosity. All qualities that I pray that my children see in me.

All of those are wonderful, but the none are achievable, for our children, without love. Love that comes over us the moment we became “Mom”.

Alright, I broke down and asked them. Here’s what my kids had to say about me! I asked: “What’s one thing you love about me as a mom…”

Easton: Because you give us lots of snuggles.

Brooks: Because God made you to be our mom, and because you love us.

Ashton: Because you are fun, you let us stomp in rain puddles.

Walker: You’re my Mama.

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How I Stopped Comparing on Social Media

We live in a social media saturated era. There are SO many good things about living in this time. The abundance of communication, relatability, creativity and friendships that flourish through social media is such a beautiful thing. However, like most, too much of anything can become harmful .

Social media can easily go from encouraging and uplifting, to comparison and judgment. It’s a slippery slope that can go bad very fast! For quite some time, I struggled with a sense of inadequacy in “real” life as well as social media. Time, prayer and seeking my fullness in the Lord have reminded me all that is true.

Recently, I’ve become comfortable to share some ways that help combat those unproductive emotions that tend to come up.

  1. Only follow people that bring joy, speak truth, or encourage. If they don’t meet those criteria, I simply unfollow. There have been seasons that I need to unfollow a person for a bit, then can go back an re-follow with no issues later. Many times, it has a lot more to do with my current circumstances than the other person.
  2. Evaluate followers & followings regularly. Every few months I go through my lists and clean it up. No sense in following people for the numbers. I’m not into simply growing my numbers game. My worth is not in the amount of followers or likes. I let myself become distracted by that for too long.
  3. Share what I want, when I want. I try to share in the most real-time as possible. I don’t pre-plan my posts or arrange them according to the best algorithm times. I want to follow genuine people, and I know that’s what others want to see from me. If there’s a topic on my heart or we’re doing something fun, that’s what I post.

These are just a few areas that I keep in check as I participate in this technology filled age. Hopefully it helps you, experience the joy that can come from sharing our lives with others around the world. Never before have we had this opportunity!

A Day in the Life

Routine is what keeps us all sane. Flexibility is important, but a general schedule keeps extreme chaos from happening. Here’s our general schedule.

5:00 Mom & Dad wake up.

6:30 Kids usually wake up, but are expected to remain in their rooms quietly.

7:00 Kids are up and out of bed. Turn on PBS Kids while I do morning chores.

8:00 Breakfast

8:30 Make beds & get dressed. Kids do their best effort at doing these themselves, I help where needed.

9:00 School. Typically one child at a time. The other three play in basement or their rooms to avoid distractions.

11:30 Finish up school and begin lunch prep.

12:00 Lunch. We always read one Bible story and one other story of their choice.

12:30 Naps/ Quiet Time

2:30 Quiet activities, until everyone is awake. Reading, coloring, screen time.

3:00 Everyone is awake, so free play is on til dinner.

5:00 Dinner

7:00 Kids bedtime. Older ones don’t typically fall asleep right away, but wind down in their rooms.

9:00 Mom & Dad bedtime.

Obviously, not all days are ideal. This is our general guideline for what makes the most productive day. We throw in fun activities and exceptions now and again!